A couple weeks ago, I wrote a post for Mimosa Lotus about the 3 questions relationship-seekers should ask before they dive into the dating process.
1. How do I want my ideal date/mate to treat me?
2. How am I treating myself?
3. How can I bring these two things into alignment?
(You should really go read the full post, but those give you an overview of the thinking.)
As I thought about the post later, however, I realized that these 3 questions apply to every kind of relationship—not just the dating variety.
Want your coworkers to show you respect? Consider how you're showing respect to yourself.
Wish your spouse would be more attentive to your needs? Start attending to yourself more regularly.
Want your family to be more supportive of your ambitions? Make sure you're supporting yourself with the way you think and speak.
It's easy to fall into the trap of believing that a relationship's success or failure is determined solely by how you treat the other person and the other person treats you, but one of the biggest components is how you treat yourself.
And the good news is, you have complete control over that.